seven weeks in boulder & the tears to mf’in prove it

My intention for moving to Boulder was slow moving and solitude. I wanted to extract myself from old friends, hedonistic habits, and stagnant cycles. I came here to get in touch with nature, to wrap myself in the colorful quilt of her whispered mysteries. I wanted to free myself from the distraction and consumption of cities, of going all the time, doing all the time. I expected that a suburb with defined winter months would force me into the hibernation that I seek, that I need. Still, I resist. 

My transplant to such a city has been difficult and has caused me great discomfort. Old habits die hard and the transition towards silence, solitude, contemplation, and slow moving has fallen by the wayside as I search exasperatedly for exactly what I had before. The comfort of community cannot be understated; it is still something I yearn for and I do not think it inconsistent with my mission of slowing down, but perhaps a welcome support.

Still, questions of “why am I here” and overwhelming sensations of “I don’t belong” have encouraged me to flee before I have even landed. Comparisons of my seven weeks here with my joyous two years in San Francisco fuel the fire of fear and confusion, a fire that unhesitatingly consumes and erases any semblance of rose-colored nostalgia. I have cried and I have cried, cracking open sequestered parts of myself, ripe for exploration. Which is I guess why I’m here, right on track.

2 responses

  1. Your Cousin Avatar

    I love you! When I moved to Italy for 3 months I felt very out of place. My best friend told me that it’s supposed to feel weird and awkward. It takes time in a new place to settle in. I’m so happy you got a car. In your free time go visit Rocky Mountain national park if you have t already. It is $30 but it’s worth it. Life if weird and feeling weird is normal and so is crying. You’re the coolest and I’m so proud of you. You’re brave and gorgeous and everything is happening the way it’s meant to, everything for a reason! God has got your back. Xoxoxo

    1. molly Avatar
      molly

      annie! ur stories provide more comfort than u know. feeling that i’m not alone and that this is a normal part of life helps me embrace it instead of pushing it away and trying to get back to the good part as fast as possible. i’m sure u were like “omg i’m in italy. i should be happy. why do i feel like shit?” and getting into cycles of blaming yourself – what’s wrong with me? if i’m not happy here, will i ever be happy? and now look at u!! u made it thru and r stronger bc of it. i love you so much and i’m so grateful for ur accompaniment on this life journey.

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